Growing up we learn to connect to peers , family members and employers but today we seldom have sufficient role models from which to practice ‘good interpersonal relationships.’ Partners in couples therapy can learn what makes a relationship satisfying, and where they can improve their relationship.You can find this
Just feel comfortable with your therapist
It’s important to feel relaxed with your therapist as a person, whether it’s a woman, a male, or a ‘couple counseling.’ Offer the psychiatrist a few opportunities to see like you, the friend and the way the psychiatrist deals for you are a good shape.
What would I do
Coaches and therapists traditionally follow different theories in pair therapy counsellors. What you can expect is for your therapist to ask about the history of your relationship to understand how you came together as a couple and what your challenges were along the way. They would also pick up your background history and any information of your family of birth and see if there are trends presenting themselves in your family history.
Person sessions-pairs sessions
Personally I considered a combination of couples and individual sessions to work well. There are potentially hidden personal challenges in all couple issues which the partner triggers. These personal issues arise as an invitation to be addressed and it is sometimes better for the individual to work through them in their own space and time.
In a couple session I found that couples learn to listen better to their partner when asked first to listen and then speak, rather than react immediately. This structure often helps them to express themselves fully within the therapy’s safe environment, and to actively listen with patience and keep reactivity low on the other side.
Use your doctor wisely
I recommend to my clients as a couple psychiatrist that they want to use my resources wisely. They don’t need to go into counseling and allow me to see them experience the same problems that they do at school. This time it is better to think about the underlying reasons and mechanisms leading to the fight. Refer to my other post ‘Therapy Couples-Will Save Your Friendship! ‘For more information.
Ask for professional support
If you wondered if pair counseling were for you then check it out. High reactivity is almost inevitable when emotions run. Occasionally, all your efforts might not be enough to change the patterns in which you and your partner got themselves. If you haven’t had the strength to get support yet it’s time to do so now.